One doesn't owe debts to harm and deprive, but to giving, Nyom
blazer . Parents give what one desires, sphere, 'flesh', bear much, much burden and could have it removed like a pest sucking blood uninvited or occupy food, place...
Nobody did that for one other then once parents. It's million times higher that human-being are killed by their parents, often right after they get aware of possible burden with the guest.
How many beings did Nyom feed, who started with making burdens when arriving till today? Less would even give it a thought how many times a mother feed them, carried... don't remember, know, what parents sacrificed for huge time.
It's so crazy that in the West people often feel more devoted to pets (although they have no intentional goodness at all, are just addicted and easy to control) than to their parents.
Why? Because not seeing sacrifices of giving but just approve of what their can control, make their own "don't hurt" them.
It's important to be clear that one wished to come, arrive, take place. Nobody forced one to take birth.
Like here. Many took and take care, provide for all that one can take on existance in this more refined realm.
Again: good to try to list, possible ask, of how much and what was sacrificed. Often people are not aware of the "God" around, and when sometimes appearing, it seems like as having come down to harm.
But that's also an issue for parents, to know that their guests, children, are not their own, but just guest one takes care liberal. It happen always that when there is much love, much desire to control, that harm arises naturally.
And again, with gratitude, seeing the sacrifices one received, as child even demanded, forced (by the power of illusion, love), one can tell such, tell to now wishing to go on, and ask whether there would be an open debt one could solve (that's what one does when asking for going forth).
As it is a heavy thing that parents let go of the fruit of so many sacrifices, in traditional countries, to good remember the goodness of parents and leave proper, leaving ceremony might be 3h for the quite shorter ordination.
Modern people, so influenced by wrong view, leave and miss to solve the base: right view.
And as it's also a matter of metta, it's as well a giving freedom from one's side, letting go of both, wishing to nurish on and to control (making his own), knowing the goodness done well.