At large people gain followers on desire for gain such, and in all cases it because doing favors, such as excepting brides, acting as 'fake' authority, giver, giving gladness and way on, approve in favors, Upalāpana.
While the Noble Ones never have either desires to gain followers, nor would ever do favors for such, and avoid any relation with those of gross defilements.
That being the case, it's nearly impossible, if not leaving home, stand, stop seeking favors, that one ever could ain relation with those doing no favors, but provide with what heads toward release.
Only where basic right view is still uphold strong, where there is, what people might call "blind faith" toward what's worthy to but faith and surrender into, could one, still looking for where he could gain favors, come into relation with those without favors outside of right view, right virtue, right unification, right release.
Therefore, already total common "living on doing favors" and thereby corrupting not only families but even nations, the whole world, is a most serious transgression, not only to be a matter when seeing the fault oneself, but one the community has to urge and act.
So one should know that in communities where corrup living isn't blamed, living like traders, business people gather on markets, it's because simply part-taking on favored trade.
Upalāpana means drown under the flood of affection, "verwässert", blind to judge above defilement, like pigs follow their slayers, because he provides with desired favors.